Today we’re looking at the topic of resentment
It’s not uncommon for stepparents to experience feelings of resentment towards their stepchildren for the time and energy they require.
It’s normal to experience feelings of resentment from time to time and they need not cause a rift in relationships if you address the issues and move forward. Real problems start however when you hold on to feelings of resentment. Resentment is like a weed mat that smothers the growth beneath; its heavy presence causes love to be suffocated so don’t let it lie around too long.
Specifically identify the cause of your resentment
If you’re hanging on to resentment it’s time to remove the weed mat. Identify what has causes you to feel resentful. I recall one stepmother (let’s call her Elaine) who strongly resented her stepdaughter, not because of anything the girl had done but because her husband treated his daughter like royalty. Elaine felt her needs always came second. The root of the problem was not the daughter’s behaviour, but rather the way Elaine’s husband responded to his daughter.
Take time to make each other feel loved and special
Nurturing your couple relationship can reduce a stepparent’s feelings of resentment towards your children. Reassure your biological children that the relationship they share with you cannot substituted or replaced by the one you share with your partner (their stepparent) so they too feel secure.
On a simpler note, it could be that a stepparent resents having to continually meet the practical needs of his or her stepchildren. If this is the case, negotiate roles and responsibilities with your partner and ensure a stepparent has time out for themselves. Remember also…
It’s not what you do for your children but what you have taught them to do for themselves that will make them successful human beings.” Ann Landers
Blended Family Advisor
p.s. Session Four, page 13 of the Blending Lives Program goes into more detail on how to reduce resentment and negotiate roles. For more information on creating and sustaining a great relationships in a blended family, please read on…
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- Form a united approach to discipline and treat children equally
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- Bond with stepchildren
- Stop feeling torn between your spouse and children
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- The truth about emotions that destroy: Guilt, Jealousy and Resentment
- Two crucial keys to a fantastic relationship (Session 1, Worksheet 4)
- How to overcome four barriers to intimacy: Is your relationship suffering because of them? (Session 1, Worksheet 7)
- The first thing you must do before you can develop a plan for discipline that you both agree on (Session 3, Worksheet 1)
- One thing that destroys many stepfamilies: Find out what it is and why you shouldn’t do it (Session 3, Worksheet 5)
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Your ability to resolve conflict directly affects the health and success of your relationship. This session covers essential skills and strategies you must use if you want to resolve conflict peacefully.
Session 3 Effective Discipline
Discipline teaches children about actions and consequences. It helps them learn to make good decisions for their lives. You’ll cover how to discipline, develop a plan you both agree on, cope with divided loyalties and much more.
Session 4 Secrets to Successful Parenting
Create harmonious relationships, banish resentment, stop feeling torn, treat children equally and bond with stepchildren.
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* How to get you thoughts and feelings across without nagging
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* How to talk through issues without becoming defensive
* How to create a respectful and supportive atmosphere
“It is very useful information to help in this transition with my girlfriend and her son. It’s been a little rocky to say the least, and the advice given helped us out immensely. I can sit down and not feel neglected, and actually talk about things with my girlfriend regarding her son’s words or actions. I can convey to her how I feel and she takes that to heart and really tries to make it work. Thank you for guidance!!” Benjamin Garcia, Jr.
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A special eBook looking at the pain your blended family has evolved out of (death/divorce). It helps you identify unresolved personal issues which can resurface and be destructive to your current relationships. Discover four issues you must address plus how to help your children heal.
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If you’re struggling and would like some help this eBook is just for you! Receive advice on how to cope when these significant relationships turn sour as they have the potential to destroy a blended family. You’ll learn how to communicate with challenging people and get strategies to protect your family. The strategies outlined will help you build the bridge of peace with the difficult people in your life.
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In this manual which is posted directly to you, you’ll receive an overview of the commonly recommended skills and traits to encourage in your children/stepchildren. This is your chance to learn how to train them to make good decisions for their life and become responsible, respectful and independent adults. You’ll learn how to build your family into a supportive team plus much more. Here’s just an example of some of the things you’ll discover:
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Take the personality test to discover your personality type and that of your partner’s. It’s great fun and will help you appreciate each other’s strengths and weaknesses. The personality test gives you a greater understanding and appreciation of each other’s differences.
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I, Adele Cornish BSW, International Blended Family Advisor will personally respond to your questions and struggles by email for 3 months. To help you achieve a healthy and stable family environment, I will reply to as many questions as you require. You have 3 months to implement the strategies that will change your family life, while receiving ongoing support. People who don’t have access to professional advice find this very beneficial.
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If you’ve tried face-to-face counseling only to find it hasn’t helped, you’re not alone. The advice I give, can help you experience positive changes in your blended family when all else has failed. But does it work? Here’s what Lynn found:
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Here’s a list of what you’ll receive when you order:
|Blending Lives Program topics||Essential Program||Comprehensive Program|
|Session 1 How to Have a Fantastic Relationship||Yes||Yes|
|Session 2 Resolve Conflict Peacefully||Yes||Yes|
|Session 3 Effective Discipline||Yes||Yes|
|Session 4 Secretes to Successful Parenting||Yes||Yes|
|Blending the Hidden Truth||-||Yes|
|Ex-partners & In-laws!||-||Yes|
|Regular Top Tips||Yes||Yes|
|Step Family Life Manual||-||Yes|
|Personalized, professional email support Unlimited questions||-||Yes|
|Full Money back Guarantee||Yes||Yes|
|Order now for only||US$19.95||US$97|
When you order the Comprehensive Program you’ll also receive the following eBook:
Blending: The Hidden Truth
You’ll discover: the two types of guilt and how to overcome guilt; why some blended families succeed and others don’t; what to do if you don’t “feel” love for those around you; advice to use if your spouse doesn’t want to bond with your child; three types of love and what love really means.
“I have used many of you suggestions to help deal with the issues in my relationship with my partner (and stepson). You have given me some answers for problems I have been trying to cope with unsuccessfully for 5 years. I feel a weight has been lifted from my shoulders. THANK YOU!!!” Michele Lees, Australia
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I received the following email from Patty shortly after she received her information. She gave me permission to share her experience with you:
“Thank you so much! We are loving it so far. We can’t either one seem to put it down. We are laughing and crying, and wondering if you have been following us around for the past year and a half…recording all of our mistakes. Ha ha!! We have made them all! My husband was wondering if you have been living with us! We have spent hundreds on counselors, who haven’t helped us much at all. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!” Patty Johnson, Colbert, Georgia
Take it from one who knows from firsthand experience in a blended family; you will not experience positive change unless you make it happen. Allow me to share with you what I and many others have learnt are the keys to success.
The path you choose today will influence you family’s destiny. Invest in your family’s future today. I look forward to working with you!
Blended Family Advisor
p.s. Remember you can feel completely confident about your purchase. I offer a Full Money back Guarantee. In the unlikely event you’re not 100% satisfied you will get a prompt, courteous refund. Just contact me any time within 60 days and I will rush you a full no hassles refund plus, you still get to keep the program!
p.p.s. There’s a saying that goes “A goal without a plan is a wish.” Stop wishing things would change and make it happen! The Blending Lives Program gives you a plan for success.
“Adele your books, weekly e-mail tips and personal counseling have been God sends that seem to arrive just when I need them most. Your honest and objective advice and encouragement keep me going through the rough spots. Thanks Adele for the gifts you give others.” Doreen Dyet, Ottawa, Canada